3 Minute Monday – Distraction, Dating & Decisions

3 Minute Monday

Hi friend,

“You cannot overestimate the unimportance of practically everything.” – John Maxwell

For the first time in human history, most of our problems are due to abundance, not scarcity. (h/t Naval)

Too much stimulation, too much convenience, too much information, too many calories.

And also too many options for how to spend our time.

There are far more things which we can do, than time we have to do them in.

And the allure of novelty means we’re pretty compelled to try and do as many of them as we can.

This is a recipe for disaster.

Rather than creating a varied and engaging buffet of life options, this erratic seduction by everything causes us to move incredibly fast in no particular direction.

Which means you stay still in relation to what you truly care about.

Let’s get less metaphorical for a moment…

Think about where you want to be in 2 years’ time.

What you want to do.

Pick 1-2 things that you know would make your life better if you had achieved them or moved toward them.

“1 or 2 things over 2 years??? That seems like a low AF bar to set.”

Yes I know, shut up for a second, just choose them.

Got them? Good.

Now, look at how you spent your time yesterday.

How much of that day was spent doing things which directly move you toward that goal?

Directly.

Not vaguely scrolling social media picking up “content ideas”.

Not taking a break from the grind to try something new.

How many direct steps did you take toward achieving the most important things you want in life?

Probably none.

But you were busy all day right?

How can you be busy all day and not have moved toward the MOST important thing you want in life?

This is the curse of the modern era.

We can become anything we want to be, but get distracted so much that we never get around to becoming it.

I’m starting to believe that the ultimate productivity tool is just getting really REALLY clear on what you want and ruthlessly culling everything which doesn’t contribute to it.

Most people who say they have a time management problem actually have a goal management problem.

If you just worked on the vital few tasks which are a part of your path of highest contribution, you wouldn’t need a fancy To Do List System to hold your entire life together.

Most overwhelming busyness comes from caring about what doesn’t matter, rather than working too inefficiently.

Getting distracted by the many trivial options we have every day feels like work in the moment but looks like a waste in retrospect.

Get clear on what you want, really crystal clear.

Then identify what moves you toward it.

And start to neuter everything else.

I’m pretty sure this is the answer to almost all modern productivity maladies.

MODERN WISDOM

I do a podcast that has had 20 million+ downloads. You should subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

This week’s upcoming episodes:

Monday.
Unjaded Jade – Jade created the StudyTube movement and breaks how to revise for any exam along with evidence-based memory & productivity tips.

Thursday.
Mark Williams-Thomas – ex-Police Detective and star of The Investigator on Netflix talks about his groundbreaking work which brought Jimmy Savile to justice.

Saturday.
James Bloodworth – why is the modern dating economy such a mess? How do feminism, #MeToo, toxic masculinity, OnlyFans, PornHub, and sexual liberation all exist in the same world?

THINGS I’VE LEARNED

1.
Modern Dating is a nightmare.

17% of young people think that approaching anyone who you might want to date in public constitutes harassment.

90% of women report wanting the man to approach first.

This is why the communists are winning.

2.
The Pyrrhic Victory mental model.

A Pyrrhic Victory is a victory that inflicts such a devastating toll on the victor that it is tantamount to defeat.

A Pyrrhic victory can be used to describe any situation where the price paid by the winner is so great that it negates any true sense of achievement or damages long-term progress.

For instance, if Extinction Rebellion manages to successfully hold London Bridge and disrupt traffic for an entire day, but by doing so causes more people to turn against their cause, it’s a Pyrrhic Victory.

Named after King Pyrrhus of Epirus, whose army suffered irreplaceable casualties in defeating the Romans during the Pyrrhic War.

King Pyrrhus is supposed to have said “If we are victorious in one more battle with the Romans, we shall be utterly ruined.”

3.
Decision-making can be problematic.

“There are two inconvenient truths about decision-making:

Good outcomes are not always the result of good decisions.

Good decisions do not guarantee good outcomes.” – Chris Sparks

LIFE HACK

Stop Drinking Coffee First Thing.

I posted a video on Instagram this week which people got mad at, saying that your morning coffee is a waste of caffeine.

Your adenosine system isn’t active for the first 90 minutes of the day, your adrenal system is.

Replace your morning coffee with salt in water and you’ll feel more awake, have less caffeine daily and genuinely feel your first coffee when you finally drink it.

I’ve been bro-sciencing my way through this for the last 2 years.

Then Dr Andrew Huberman dropped the exact same hack on his podcast.

Now I feel vindicated AF.

LMNT do the best tasting, best profile salts for this.

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You should try them.

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Big love,
Chris x

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