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Hi friend,

I’ve been reading Geoffrey Miller and Tucker Max’s book Mate this week.

In it, they talk about slut-shaming and why it’s emerged…

“Female promiscuity has a “tragedy of the commons” effect in the mating market.If one woman offers blowjobs on the second date, it’s harder for other women to keep them in reserve until the fourth date as their special treat.This creates a downward spiral of young women feeling like they have to offer more and more sex to more and more guys just to stay in the mating game.Thus, slut-shaming is a way of enforcing a more restrained sexual norm on other women so that not all women have to become more promiscuous than any of them would like.”

Bruhhhhh. This shit blows my mind.

It’s like a global, unconscious cartel agreement, governed by women.

It also makes a lot more sense around why women tend to be the enforcers of slut-shaming so frequently – because women are the ones who have an incentive to protect the sexual marketplace from becoming a price-war of easy sex.

Reading that got me thinking about the equivalent for men and I think it explains simp-shaming too…

Male resource-commitment has a “tragedy of the commons” effect in the mating market.If one man offers gifts and resources by the second date, it’s harder for other men to keep them in reserve until the fourth date as their special treat.This creates a downward spiral of young men feeling like they have to offer more and more commitment and resources to more and more women just to stay in the mating game.Thus, simp-shaming is a way of enforcing a more restrained resource-giving norm on other men so that not all men have to become more resource-committed than any of them would like.

Similarly, this explains why men are more the enforcers of simp-shaming than women.

Because men have an incentive to stop simps from cheapening the value of all men’s resources.

This is hardly an iron law.

Men call women sluts and women call men simps too.

But this game theory explanation makes a lot of sense.

If women give sex without commitment, it cheapens the value of sex.

If men give resources or commitment without sex, it cheapens the value of resources and commitment.

(h/t Rollo Tomassi)

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MODERN WISDOM

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This week’s upcoming episodes:

Monday.
Life Hacks The Gym Edition – Jonny & Yusef drop some of their favourite gym hacks, exercise variations, rep schemes and more to spice up your new year routine.

Thursday.
Steven Pinker – the Harvard Psychologist and multi-best-selling author explains rationality, what it is, why it’s so scarce, whether smart people are more or less rational and why conspiracy theories take hold.

Saturday.
Not sure yet. Maybe James O’Keefe on Project Veritas’ investigative reporting into corruption at the highest levels of government.

THINGS I’VE LEARNED

1.
High heels make women look sexier, but not dumber.

“The woman in high heels was perceived as being more sexually attractive, physically attractive, feminine, less masculine, and of a higher status.

Women wearing high heels were not rated as more (or less) dominant, strong, warm, enthusiastic, trustworthy, nurturing, socially competent, healthy, intelligent, affectionate, friendly, or successful.

These findings indicate that high heels do not signal any personality traits, or cues to health or intelligence.

While high heels indicate femininity and increase attractiveness, objectification (rating the women as less: intelligent, socially competent, or trustworthy) did not occur.”

— ScienceDirect via Rolf Degen.

2.
“You have not truly ascended in your craft to a certain level of mastery until people who have no love for or positive inclination towards you learn from you in secret.

There is no greater sign of respect than the recognition that comes from those who give you no credit.” — Illimitable Man

3.
“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well have not lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.” — J.K. Rowling

LIFE HACK

Floor-Lying Skull Crushers.

Taken from today’s Life Hacks Gym Edition.

Start doing your skull crushers on the floor and your life will change.

You’ll be able to setup & move more weight, more easily.

You’ll be able to focus on form and fail reps more safely.

Plus you can do dead-stop, rest-pause and drop sets.

Only nerds do skull-crushers on benches any more, join the cool kids club.

Big love,
Chris x

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PS
Jordan Peterson news coming this week. LES GOHHHHH.