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“Cynicism in relationships is a defence against heartbreak and betrayal, and it’s very effective at that.
The trouble is when you get so good at it that you accidentally defend yourself from ever falling in love.” — Mark Ryan
Cynicism is a guarded response which sets yourself up against disappointment.
Its role within the system is to protect you against experiencing anything bad.It is a pre-emptive strike against a perceived threat.
If I tell myself that ‘all women are bad’, then I’m less likely to seek a relationship and, as a consequence, I’m never going to feel the pain of rejection.
If I tell myself that ‘everything is shit’ or that ‘things will never get better’, then I am excused of ever having to try at anything.
It’s more comfortable to get fatalistic and call it pragmatism.
The cope is framing hope as pathetic and embarrassing and optimism as delusion.
The upside of never trying is never having to feel the pain of failure.
And it’s a devil’s bargain.
MODERN WISDOM
I do a podcast where I pretend to have a British accent.
This week’s upcoming episodes:
Monday.
Mostly Wise #4 – James Sexton, Matt McCusker & Rick Glassman. 3 hours of straight heat. Just listen to it. Listen now on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.
Thursday.
Sam Sulek – one of the biggest bodybuilding creators on the planet about mental toughness, bodybuilding prep and getting ready for your Winter Arc.
Saturday.
Angela Duckworth – the revolutionary author of Grit on how to bring unlimited resilience within your reach.
THINGS I’VE LEARNED
1.
Narcissists are fun short term and annoying long term.
“In a study of groups that met regularly for several months, the people who scored highest on narcissism were at first the most popular people in the group.
By the end of several months, they were the least popular.
People who love themselves the most do not make the best friends.” — Rob Henderson
2.
Less, but better.
“Putting 10x more effort into one thing you care about has a disproportionately more positive impact than doing 10x more things.” — Jonny Miller
3.
Guilt is self-imposed cognitive debt.
Every time you behave in a way you know is wrong, you create another thing that needs managing.
Now you need rationalisations and secrecy and to remember what you told whom.
You need to protect your conception of yourself from evidence supplied by yourself.
Living according to your values is therefore not merely morally desirable, it’s cognitively efficient.
Integrity gives you fewer tabs open.
A clear conscience is an underrated productivity tool.
LIFE HACK
A question when you’re unsure how you feel.
“What would I have to feel if I couldn’t feel ashamed right now?” — Joe Hudson
Big love,
Chris x
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PS
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