3 Minute Monday
Hi friend,
Today’s podcast episode is with Charlie Houpert, the founder of Charisma on Command, YouTube’s biggest charisma and communication channel.
He gave some outstanding insights, here’s some of my favourites:
When you meet someone for the first time and they ask what you do, they don’t actually care about what you do.
What they’re asking is “please give me some remotely interesting information which I can connect to my own life”.
This is an obvious opportunity to have an engaging, interesting answer which will make a good impression and lead to a fun conversation.
“Well I’m in sales now but I did two psychology degrees at university then dropped my life and lived in Brazil for 6 months, I’ve got my own business coaching people online and love to spend time training but really I just want to retire to a beach with my dogs.”
In that, you’ve got so many potential touch points that the other person could start a conversation around.
And so long as they’re all true, any one of the points that they start talking about will be interesting to you because they’re one of your passions as well.
Another insight was how to easily add humour into conversations by purposefully mis-answering questions.
Many people take questions very literally.
We’re taught in school to answer the question as we read it, in a logical, logistical manner.
Russell Brand was asked “Is it right that you’re addicted to sex?”
“I don’t know if it’s right but it’s definitely fun.”
Another example would be someone asking where you’re from and you replying that you’re from the Congo, or some other place that you’re obviously not given your skin tone.
As with the greeting – most people aren’t after a literal answer to their question when they speak to you, they’re looking for the vibe that you’re giving off.
Finally, a tip for how you can speak more attractively on a date.
Lead with your values when you’re speaking.
Instead of saying that you have a job at a Recruitment Company which you can’t wait to leave.
Say WHY you’re doing that job and what it means to you.
For instance – you’ve always wanted to buy your mum a house/travel abroad/start a business/whatever so you’re working in recruitment now to create some wealth before you pursue your dreams.
Vibes & values for the win man. Vibes & values.
Go listen to today’s episode with Charlie on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, it’s an absolute monster.
MODERN WISDOM
I do a podcast which is definitely not a cult built around a Les Goh LinkedIn photo.
This week’s upcoming episodes:
Monday.
Charlie Houpert – the best charisma & confidence channel on YouTube explains the principles of great communication, plus success, MDMA and more. This is a must listen.
Thursday.
Joe Henrich – an evolutionary biologist explains how culture impacts our psychology, dating lives and views on monogamy.
Saturday.
Not sure yet, maybe Hamza on modern dating and the self improvement world.
THINGS I’VE LEARNED
1.
A man who is 5 feet 6 inches tall needs to earn an additional $175,000 per year to be as desirable as a man who is about 6 feet tall
A 6’2″ man can earn $30,000 less than a 6′ man and will be viewed as equally desirable.
h/t Rob Henderson
2.
Ryan Holiday’s keys to a productive life…
Wake up early.
Limit interruptions.
Make a little progress everyday.
Say no (a lot).
Learn from your mistakes.
Pick yourself back up when you slip.
Waste no time measuring yourself against other people.
3.
Fentanyl is the leading cause of death for Americans aged 18-45.
41,587 18-45 year olds died of fentanyl overdoses in 2021.
LIFE HACK
Dishmatic Dish Brush.
Can’t believe I’ve not mentioned this sooner.
No need to put your washing up liquid into the sink separately.
Just use a Dishmatic Brush where the handle has the liquid already in and allow gravity to dispense as you clean.
I’ve sworn by this for years.
To get specific, I’ve actually found that the Dishmatic is optimal for small-batch washing, like 1-4 items.
More than that and you should be running the sink normally and getting a bigger brush in there.
#AspiringTrophyHusband
Big love,
Chris x
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PS
Jordan Peterson announcement coming very soon. #LESGOH
