3 Minute Monday
“Fuck-you money” is a meme but it’s also a truth.
There is an amount of wealth you can achieve when typical restrictions and conventions no longer apply to you.
You don’t need to suck up to the gatekeepers.
You don’t need to do things you don’t want to do.
In extreme situations you don’t even need to follow the law.
Similarly, “fuck-you freedom” is kind of downstream from fuck-you money, but also can be achieved through cultivating a lack of reliance on other groups.
There are no restrictions on where you can travel to, and when, and for how long.
You don’t need to show up to work on time, or work at all.
If you’re sufficiently well structured, you don’t even need to care about the state of the economy, or the power grid or the wider world.
But I’ve recently learned about another type of fuck-you liberation.
One which is significantly cheaper, more accessible, more common and maybe even more powerful.
The “fuck-you family”.
Many fathers I’ve spoken to have told me about how their priorities were completely changed upon starting a family.
All the previous status games they played seemed petty.
The admiration and gamesmanship they used to play in an attempt to impress people in power or those with status seemed juvenile and shallow.
Much of their anxiety around whether different people liked them or thought they were cool evaporated.
The only people they needed to care about impressing were now asleep in their house.
To their kids, they were the coolest, richest, strongest, most heroic person on the planet.
And that gave them a very powerful type of liberation.
It seems to me that much of what young men get up to are surrogate activities until they finally get a family.
This isn’t to say that all fathers become placid soyboy hippies, or that having kids neuters your ambition.
But it definitely seems to open up a new realm where they care far less about the flotsam and jetsam that used to occupy their lives.
This week’s upcoming episodes:
Phil Heath – 7x Mr Olympia Champion and perhaps the greatest bodybuilder of all time joins me to drop some never-before-heard secrets, training and mindset tips and reflections on his career.
Adam Lane Smith – more ugly psychology truths from one of my favourite Twitter follows. Insights around relationships, mental health, divorce, fulfilling your potential and more.
Niall Ferguson – one of the greatest historians of our time breaks down why people don’t understand the lessons of the past, why history doesn’t actually repeat itself and his predictions for 2024.
THINGS I’VE LEARNED
Liberals and Conservatives disagree.
Survey participants were asked “What do you think is more important in life?” and selected one of two options:
Do things that give you personal satisfaction/pleasure:
Very liberal: 66%
Very conservative: 33%
To work hard and do what is expected of you:
Very liberal: 31%
Very conservative: 65%
“Obviously most people would like to have both.
How nice it would be to have both.
But when required to choose only one, it is interesting to see these differences emerge.” — Rob Henderson
How to judge love.
“The most accurate metric for your love of someone is how you feel about their flaws.” — Mark Manson
Men say I love you first.
“In heterosexual relationships, who usually says ‘I love you’ first?
Research finds that men are more likely than women to say it first.
On average, men say it 69 days into the relationship.” — New York Post
New extended discount from AG1.
You’re not eating enough fruit and vegetables and you know it.
I take this stuff with me everywhere I go because it’s so important to how I operate.
AG1 is the best all-in-one supplement I’ve found, and it tastes fantastic.
You can now try it every day for a full 90 day course and if you don’t like it, they’ll refund the full 3 months.
So if you’ve been wanting to make an improvement to your nutrition, this is the place to start.
Tell your friends they should read this Newsletter.
I’m back in the UK this Sunday filming for my new project with James Smith. I can’t wait to show you what we’ve been working on.