3 Minute Monday
I’ve just got back from Nashville where I had dinner with Jordan & Mikhaila.
The nation of Canada is licking its wounds after I roundly obliterated the Peterson family in a dance-off to country music.
Plus I have some very exciting Peterson-related news for 2022 to announce soon.
I also got to meet some of the guys who produce Ben Shapiro’s show and other stuff at his company The Daily Wire which was sick.
Tons of stories which I’ll share on podcasts soon I’m sure.
If you missed it, you’ll love my episode with Jake Humphrey from last week, a late contender for episode of the year.
In it, he said something I really loved…“These are the golden years. You can’t wait until you’ve got no stress or worry in your life before you decide to be happy because guess what? You will always have stress and worry and anxiety and problems and issues to deal with. So you have to decide now that happiness is something you’re going to have.”
It’s the little throwaway line at the start which I love.
“These are the golden years.”
It’s a great heuristic to always think that when you look back, these times right now will be the ones you cherish, and to approach them with requisite joy.
Only in retrospect can we see how beautiful the present actually was.
Problems are a feature of life, not a bug.
There will never come a time when you have no problems.
What, did you think that one day you’re just going to wake up and cease having problems?
Like completing a video game and levelling up to a map where there’s nothing there?
That’s never going to happen.
Your problems will change, but having problems is going nowhere.
Whatever negativity is consuming your thoughts probably won’t matter in 3 months time.
In 3 months, you won’t remember the negative texture of your mind.
Or the boring, repetitive things you thought.
Or maybe even what you were worried about.
But the time you spent worrying will have passed.
So you are sacrificing your joy and presence in the moment, for a problem which you won’t even be able to recall in the future.
Immortality would be the only life in which such flippancy with the days you live for is acceptable.
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This week’s upcoming episodes:
Vincent Harinam – why is the modern dating market such a mess? Mating dynamics, evolutionary psychology, simps, Tinder, OnlyFans and more. You’ll love this one.
Eddie Jones – England Rugby’s Head Coach gives his lessons in leadership from decades of managing elite sport.
Not sure yet. Maybe Cory Allen on how to utilise mindfulness in every day life.
THINGS I’VE LEARNED
Inequality in the sexual marketplace is a serious problem.
Since 2008 the number of American men under 30 reporting no sex has nearly tripled.
(Today’s episode with Vincent Harinam digs very deep into this)
Are you living or simply existing?
“You might be going along doing pretty well in life.
Things aren’t good and they aren’t bad.
You’ve forgotten the things that excited you as a child, but you’ve also forgotten that you’ve forgotten them.
You are the subject of Pink Floyd’s Comfortably Numb.” — Kyle Eschenroeder
Everybody wants the payday, nobody wants the workweek.
Ask what the most popular dishes are.
I’ve been going to new restaurants throughout my America trip and the easiest solution to get your order right is just to ask the waiter what the most popular dishes are.
Outsource your menu-refining to the entire customer base ftw.
Heading back to the UK this week,