3 Minute Monday
Here’s some short reflections o dealing with self-consciousness…
“Stop worrying so much about other people liking you. Most people don’t even like themselves.” — Carnivore Aurelius
This is something I’ve realised as I’ve tried to deprogram my own self-consciousness over the last few years.
I always thought that other humans had some brilliantly balanced existence and that any negative opinion of me was created through an accurate and fair assessment of the fact that they were normal and I was, in relation, deficient in some way.
We only see a tiny sliver of other people’s motivations and thought processes in the actions they take, while we observe our own vacillations, uncertainty, foibles and self-doubt from a front row seat 10,000 times a second as our brain whirrs back and forth.
This makes everyone else look like slick, rational agents while we are wavering idiots.
Most people, most of the time, don’t have any idea what they’re doing.
Adulthood is like being pushed down some stairs at 18 and continually trying to catch your feet until you die.
“We would care far less about what other people thought of us if we realised how rarely they did.”
Not only do most people not have any idea what they’re doing, they’re so wrapped up in their own existence that they have no time to consider ours.
When was the last time you saw someone trip over or say something polite but clumsy at a party?
I can’t remember at all.
This is one of the most liberating things to realise about social life.
Almost no one cares about you.
Almost no one will remember you after you leave the room.
So there is no point in being self-conscious.
“Your boos mean nothing, I’ve seen what makes you cheer.” — Rick Sanchez
Most people live default, unassessed lives, completely at the mercy of their programming and following whatever desires society told them to like.
If you could see the inner texture of the people who don’t like you’s existence, I think you’d probably feel more pity than anger.
Basically, most critics are miserable idiots.
You’re doing fine.
This week’s upcoming episodes:
Scott Galloway – our generation is the first one which has done worse than its parents. Financially, educationally, in marriage, in mental health. Why? And what can be done about it?
Carole Hooven – testosterone is a hell of a drug. Why does it exist in nature, what differences does it cause in men and women, just how different are the sexes and how come this is controversial?
Chris Von Rueden – what made a leader successful ancestrally? Is prestige or dominance a better strategy for building trust? How were hierarchies maintained in primitive humans?
THINGS I’VE LEARNED
The number of men who do not want children has doubled.
Over the past two decades, the interest in having children among childless men has decreased.
In fact, the number of men reporting that they do not want children at all doubled during this time frame.
Similarly, men reporting they wouldn’t be bothered if they never had kids doubled.
Data was taken from 18,183 American men from the National Survey of Family Growth 2000-2020.
Acknowledging your weaknesses is not the same as surrendering to them.
“When a problem stems from your own lack of talent or skill, most people feel shame.
Get over it. I cannot emphasize this enough: Acknowledging your weaknesses is not the same as surrendering to them.
It’s the first step toward overcoming them.” — Ray Dalio
Climate protestors who hold up traffic would be rekt in Russia.
“In Russia, they sell tens of thousands of baseball bats every year but almost no baseballs.” — Konstantin Kisin
You probably don’t eat enough fruit and vegetables, this will help.
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I was at the Formula 1 this weekend in Austin. One of the wildest things I’ve ever seen up close. Absolutely insane.